Rich Thorpe is a Counselling & Coaching Psychologist, and an online counsellor at Newcastle University Counselling Service. His interests include Yoga, Martial Arts, Tennis, Bushwalking and getting up way to early to watch english premier league soccer.
It’s a very sad fact that on average 8 people take their own life each day in Australia, and for each death, 30 others attempt suicide.
RUOK is a campaign to address the main risk factors of suicide: Isolation and feeling like a burden to those around them. The aim is to increase our awareness of when our friends, family, co-workers or class mates are struggling, and perhaps becoming more withdrawn than normal. It can feel uncomfortable for us to reach out, but RUOK helps by giving us simple action plan to follow.
1. Ask RUOK ?
2. Listen without judgement
3. Encourage action e.g. seeing a GP or counsellor.
4. Check in. Follow up at regular intervals to stay connected, and encourage further action.
NUPSA and the student services team was out and about on campus today spreading the message of RUOK, initiating converstaions by handing out free fortune cookies to fortunate students.
Just because today is RUOK, does not mean we can’t can’t practice reaching out and asking RUOK throughout the year, today is just a reminder of how important a single conversation could be. By reaching out you will increase your own self confidence and self esteem, and feel more connected.
We now even have a special bench outside Student Central to remind us to ask too.
It is common for people to perceive that Psychology is all about mental illness, but this is far from the truth. The field of Clinical Psychology actually started to grow after World war I & II, when many soldiers returned from the war with shell shock ( known at Post Traumatic Stress Disorder PTSD nowadays), but there is also a branch of Psychology which focuses on making us better and happier humans. This branch is termed Positive Psychology, and its goal is to help promote “flourishing”.
Flourishing has 3 core features which include; positive emotions, engagement & interest, meaning & purpose
Other features of flourishing include; self-esteem, optimism, resilience, vitality, self-determination and positive relationships.
I’m sure we’d all like a little more flourishing in our lives, and Positive Psychologists have been busy devising practical ways for us to do just that.
One of my favourite Positive Psychology based practices is called 3 Good Things.
3 Good Things : Instructions
Time required = 5-10 minutes/day for at least one week.
Each day for at least one week, write down three things that went well for you that day, and provide an explanation for why they went well. It is important to create a physical record of your items by writing them down; it is not enough simply to do this exercise in your head. The items can be relatively small in importance (e.g., “weather was warm and sunny ”) or relatively large (e.g., “I got an HD”). To make this exercise part of your daily routine, some find that writing before bed is helpful.
As you write, follow these instructions:
Give the event a title (e.g., “received compliment on a project”)
Write down exactly what happened in as much detail as possible, including what you did or said and, if others were involved, what they did or said.
Include how this event made you feel at the time and how this event made you feel later (including now, as you remember it).
Explain what you think caused this event—why it came to pass.
Use whatever writing style you please, and do not worry about perfect grammar and spelling. Use as much detail as you’d like.
If you find yourself focusing on negative feelings, refocus your mind on the good event and the positive feelings that came with it. This can take effort but gets easier with practice and can make a real difference in how you feel.
Try the 3 Good Things Challenge.
Commit to doing the 3 Good Things exercise for a week and see what difference it makes to your mood and outlook on life.
In the classic 80’s movie, Bill & Ted’s Excellent Adventure, starring a very youthful Keanu Reeves, a very profound mantra was born ….. “Be Excellent to each other, and party on dude!”.
I’d like to expand on this great wisdom with a few additional tips to help you maximise your experience of Autonomy Day 🙂
Get Your Priorities Right
We are all at University to get ahead in life, and Uni offers great opportunities for development, both academically and personally. However, when partying becomes excessive and unsafe, it can have an extremely destructive effect on our studies and often our close relationships too. Uni is a big investment of time and money, and in order to get the best reward for that investment, partying safely is a wise decision to make.
Henry Ford, the founder of the Ford Motor Company famously said “When we fail to plan, we plan to fail”.
When it comes to partying, if you choose to use alcohol or other drugs, then the planning parts of your brain are going to take a nap for a while, meaning that it becomes very easy to get caught up in what others are doing, and consuming excessive amounts of intoxicating substances.
Follow the plan Stan …..
Make a commitment to enjoy the day, and not write yourself off for the following day
Pre-plan how much alcohol or drugs you will use, and stick to it.
Set yourself a rule e.g. 1 alcoholic drink per hour, or less.
Lastly eat something healthy before you start partying to help absorb the alcohol.
A great strategy is to always have a soft drink or water in between any alcoholic drinks. It will help you stay hydrated, save money and save your head pounding the following day.
Know Your Substance
Apologies for the graphic photo, but ignorance isn’t always bliss
If you are taking party drugs, it is really important to know what is in them. Since they are manufactured illegally, who knows where, by criminal gangs, use only drugs from a trusted source and use a small amount initially, where ‘recreational’ dose is hard to estimate.
Avoid Rounds and Drinking Games
Drinking games and rounds make it more difficult to stick to a plan, because we get caught up in peer pressure and social conformity.
Avoid getting caught up in a herd mentality.
Be Excellent & Look After Your Mates
Keep an eye on your mates, if you think they seem drunk or are behaving out of character given how much you know they’ve had, they may have had their drink spiked, overdosed or be excessively intoxicated. If your friend is suffering from the effects of alcohol or drugs or needs help, suggestions include:
Always dial triple zero (000) for an ambulance in an emergency, or ask uni security to call as they can direct the ambulance on Campus. Don’t avoid calling the ambulance because you’re afraid the police may become involved, as the ambulance officers and security staff’s main consideration is the welfare of the student, and your friend may suffer serious consequences if you delay getting them help.
Stay close by your friend and monitor their wellbeing. Offer reassurance.
If your friend is unconscious, lay them on their side to reduce the risk of aspirating (breathing in) vomit.
If your friends have had too much to drink, encourage them to drink water or eat something. If they have gone somewhere to chill out or sober up check whether they are alone or with someone – are they safe?
7. Exit Strategy
Know beforehand how you will get home,
make sure you have enough money for a taxi or Uber.
If the plan changes, tell your mates where you are going and with whom.
Knowledge is Power
Knowledge is Power said Einstein, so the more we know about the substances we take, the more power we have. I’m sure that’s what he meant.
Test your knowledge by taking the UON Thrive Survey which asks questions about your alcohol use and provides you with personalised feedback on your drinking, possible health impacts and how your alcohol use compares to other university students.
The University also has a new drug & alcohol resource portal called eCliPSE UON, which provides access to free online treatment programs for students of the University of Newcastle who are wanting to improve with mental health or reduce alcohol or other drug use. eCliPSE allows students to complete some initial questionnaires to receive feedback about their mood and substance use and a recommendation on the most appropriate program. More information about eCliPSE is available at www.uoneclipse.com.au
9. Take Advantage of the Placebo Effect
The Psychologist in me couldn’t resist mentioning the Placebo Effect in relation to partying safely. Placebo Effect is real physical effect that happens just by expecting something to happen. All pharmaceutical drugs are tested against sugar pills to screen out expectancy ( placebo) vs real effects.
What is very interesting is that there is also an expectancy effect for alcohol, which means that you can still get a feel good effect, even from a non-alcoholic beer, or mocktail.
It’s the start of Semester 2 … Yay ! Hopefully the stresses of last Semester have been forgotten, and perhaps some lessons learned about what not to do.
There are few guarantees in life, death and taxes perhaps, and I might add that the increasing study pressure throughout the next semester is up there too.
So today’s blog post is just a short animation to demonstrate how chronic stress actually affects the brain. Hopefully this will give us a “heads up” about the importance of managing stress, and later blog posts we’ll explore some pro-active strategies to help keep on top of stress.
It seems like every week there is a different awareness campaign attempting to help us live a healthier and happier life. Paying attention to all these different campaigns can be exhausting, and so it’s timely that from the 3rd July to 9th July it is Sleep Awareness Week, and we can all get some well earned rest …….. or at least learn about the benefits of good rest.
We all know that we feel better when we get a good night’s sleep, but when we are struggling to fit in study, work, hobbies, social life into our days, often it’s sleep that takes a back seat.
Unfortunately, our brains seem to quite like a good sleep, and if we deprive them for too long problems can emerge. According to the National Sleep Research Project, the record for the longest period without sleep is 18 days, 21 hours, 40 minutes, which was achieved during a rocking chair marathon. The record holder reported hallucinations, paranoia, blurred vision, slurred speech and memory and concentration lapses, which is perhaps a small price to pay for being crowned a rocking chair marathon champ (not).
BUT seriously folks ….. The 1989 Exxon Valdez oil spill off Alaska, the Challenger space shuttle disaster and the Chernobyl nuclear accident have all been attributed to human errors in which sleep-deprivation played a role. Just imagine the damage that lack of sleep could do to your grades !
If we want our brains to operate at high efficiency (generally considered a good thing for learning) then making sure that we get adequate sleep is a high priority. How much sleep individuals need varies depending on a number of factors, especially age, but generally aim for 7 to 9 hours per night. It’s interesting to note that before the electric light bulb was invented, adults slept nine to 10 hours a night. Tennis No 1 Andy Murray claims he gets about the same number of hours per night.
In order to achieve this sleep goal, establish a regular bedtime and waking time, and stopping exposure to electronic screens an hour before bedtime will help you to get to sleep faster, as these screen emit blue light which suppress the sleep hormone melatonin.
The other major sleep disruptor is caffeine, which has a half-life of about 6 hours. That means 6 hours after a cup of tea or coffee, you still have about 50% of the caffeine in your blood stream. This can be a problem if you are drinking caffeine in the late afternoon or evening. If you are feeling drowsy and need a pick me, try taking a quick walk outside instead of reaching for kettle.
The very sensible folk at National Sleep Awareness Week have produced a lovely infographic with some very interesting and useful tips on sleep.
Mid-point in the year is often a good time to press the reset button, a bit like New Year. It can be a good time to reflect on the behaviours we’re using to cope with life’s stresses and think about how healthy they are for our bodies and minds.
Dry July is an initiative that provides an opportunity to experience the health benefits of a month without alcohol with the added benefit of raising funds for people affected by cancer. The great thing about dry July is it gives you an excuse, in the face of social pressure to drink alcohol, to give your body a healthy break from booze.
The idea is to sign up, go booze free in July, get friends/family to sponsor you and in doing so help people affected by cancer. So far 17,577 have signed up and raised over $1.5 million, and many more just abstain from alcohol for a month for the health benefits alone.
With a month off alcohol you’re likely to experience a bunch of health benefits. Enjoy a clearer head, increased energy and productivity levels, a sense of achievement, clearer skin, weight loss and a healthier bank balance.
The ABC : Ask The Doctor has a very interesting and entertaining episode all about Alcohol. Check it out on ABC IVIEW.
Funds raised go Australian organisations to improve the comfort, care and wellbeing of patients. Check out how it all works on the Dry July webpage.
Here are some resources from the Dry July team to help you during Dry July. There are even some helpful psychologist tips for surviving.
The Dry July team encourage people to drink responsibly all year round and to stick to the recommended daily guidelines for the rest of the year. Those who are heavy drinkers or dependent on alcohol are advised to discuss with their GP before signing up. Make an appointment with a GP at the University Health Service for support.
If you want to discuss your or someone else’s alcohol or other substance use, contact our UON Counselling team on 49216622 or email email@example.com Ask a Student Support Advisor to speak to our drug and alcohol counsellor.